Break the Cycle!

How Childhood Experiences Shape Our Subconscious Patterns.

What if the fears we carry in adulthood are echoes of moments we barely remember?

Meet Alex, a six-year-old boy whose story reveals how early childhood experiences can shape our lives in surprising ways. His journey highlights the deep connection between childhood emotions and the subconscious patterns we carry into adulthood—often without even realizing it.

How the Subconscious Records Emotional Patterns.

From a young age, our subconscious mind absorbs and records experiences, especially those tied to strong emotions. These experiences form patterns that influence our thoughts, behaviors, and even relationships later in life.

If these patterns go unnoticed or unresolved, they can keep repeating in different ways, often leaving us wondering why we struggle with certain fears, insecurities, economic or even physical problems.

Alex’s Story: A Childhood Experience of Separation.

Alex’s family lived in California during the COVID-19 pandemic but relocated to Texas due to changing regulations. However, when businesses reopened in California, his parents needed to return temporarily, leaving Alex with his grandmother in Austin while taking his younger sister with them.

Although his grandmother, Pam, was kind and loving, Alex deeply missed his parents—especially his mother.

The months passed, and while his parents visited occasionally, they always had to leave again. This cycle of temporary reunions and separations created a deep sense of insecurity in Alex. He couldn’t understand why he had to stay behind while his sister went with his parents.

This emotional experience planted the seeds of a subconscious belief: “Maybe I’m not important enough to be chosen. Maybe I’ll always be left behind.”

The Hidden Impact: How Emotions Manifest in Behavior.

Alex’s subconscious fear of being abandoned started to show in small but significant ways. Every day after school, the children would wait for their parents to pick them up. Whenever Alex was one of the last kids left waiting, he would complain of a sore throat. Soon after, he would burst into tears. His body was expressing what he didn’t have words for—his fear of being forgotten.

Beyond his emotional reactions, Alex also began to act out in subtle ways.

Although he was a creative and intelligent child, he sometimes picked on younger kids. It was as if he needed to prove his strength, to feel a sense of control in a world that had suddenly felt unpredictable and unfair.

What was happening was that his defense mechanism was triggered to protect him and make him feel peace, control, or security, even if only momentarily, because this caused a secondary problem, prompting an adult to put a stop to the situation.

This is the same thing that happens in the future, when we become adults:

• You react to something that is connected with a subconscious problem

• The defense mechanism is triggered

• It makes you feel peace, control, or security, even if only momentarily

• Someone stops you, and if you're conscious, you realize that something isn't right, but often you don't understand why

The Long-Term Effects of Unresolved Patterns.

If left unaddressed, these early emotional wounds can manifest in adulthood. Alex’s experience of abandonment may shape his relationships in the future.

He might develop a deep fear of being left behind by a romantic partner, leading to insecurity, distrust, even an inability to commit fully, or have constant throat problems.

Alternatively, he might avoid relationships altogether, choosing solitude over the possibility of feeling abandoned again.

This is how subconscious patterns repeat—until we recognize and heal them by doing profound work.

Breaking the Cycle: Healing and Rewriting the Story.

The good news is that once we become aware of these patterns, we can begin to heal them. Here are some ways to break free from subconscious cycles and create healthier emotional responses:

1. Self-Awareness & Reflection: Journaling about emotional triggers or childhood memories can help uncover patterns. This naturally happens when you face a problem.

2. Inner Child Work: Connecting with the emotions of our younger self through guided meditations or therapy can bring healing and self-compassion.

3. Emotional Regulation Techniques: Practicing breathwork, mindfulness, or EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) can help rewire the nervous system’s response to stress.

4. Support & Connection: Working with a therapist, coach, or spiritual guide can provide insights and tools to shift subconscious beliefs.

Understanding and Releasing Old Patterns.

This is a true story that I had the opportunity to witness, and it made me realize the power of our emotional patterns.

Alex’s story is not unique. We all carry subconscious imprints from childhood that influence our adult lives. By recognizing these patterns and consciously choosing to heal, we can break free from the cycles that no longer serve us and step into a more empowered and self-aware version of ourselves.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in repetitive emotional patterns, perhaps it’s time to look deeper. Facing fears and challenges is not easy, but the time it takes to release and transform those challenges has no comparison to the time we’ve spent stuck in negative patterns. The answers often lie in the stories we carry—stories that are waiting to be understood, healed, and rewritten.

Have you noticed any childhood patterns affecting your present life?

If you find yourself struggling with stress, anxiety, overwhelm, uncertainty, or a constant health issue, it may be a sign that a pattern is stuck in your subconscious and is ready to be released.

In my Soul Guidance Program, we can:

• Gain clarity on where you want to go and understand the block

• Evaluate your current situation to identify the pattern and the defense mechanism that is "protecting you"

• Release the pattern to bring your nervous system back to balance

• Rewrite your story with a new choice aligned with your highest good

In our work together, your Soul will guide us to your specific needs, which may include:

• Inner-child work

• Akashic Records

• Somatic work

• Trapped emotional release

• Spiritual guides and Higher-Self messages

• And more

Are you ready to break free from old patterns and step into a new version of yourself? Let’s connect. Book a Connection Call with me to see if Soul Guidance is for you.

Big hugs and light!

Lety.